Why do 85% of people still *Feel* 'judged by others' on a regular basis or part of the time in life?

What is the cure for this?

Now the other 15% still have their moments, but have learned tools while practicing them to diffuse.

Yes, as many of us know the ‘cure’ to judging others is to look in the mirror as this is where it all starts. Our reactions to others are often something lacking within ourselves. Do you have money issues, but avoid the prosperity talks of others? Do you pick apart others for how they spend their money and struggle with your own? All great questions! Are you a fault finder in disguise?

Start filtering yourself with your own inner voice and see what your outer voice is trying to tell you! I remember a time ions ago where I felt completely judged by others quite often. I got sick of me! I knew the answers lie inside of me, so I took a deep breath and started looking and exploring within. It was an amazing expedition of getting to know Merna from the inside out and it didn’t happen overnight. I judged others and did some of these very things. Now, I was horrified of what I discovered, because I am a GOOD person! This doesn’t define you, but rather showing you where your self-worth needs some attention. It’s part of life and called being H*U*M*A*N! None of us is immune.

In addition, I posted two more questions…….

Do you judge others?

Are you sure?

All of these questions seem simple at first glance and especially that “no, I do not judge others as I am a nice person”…. Well, often we have our own justifications of ‘judging’ without really understanding it. Time and again, I hear people talking about the negatives of someone else’s life like a story, but ending it ‘because I care about them’……However, the compassion was solely missing from their dialogue. Even if we drench our dissecting of someone else’s life with compassion, this is another justification.

For example:

“Did you hear about Jane and John Doe? I saw their divorce in the paper under the court house news. She never said anything about this and I have run into her at many community functions. I know I have heard her husband has a wondering eye and thought he use to be a player. I think he’s had a few affairs over the years. I guess she knows firsthand if he’s faithful or not. Good for her in kicking him to the curb. That poor thing I bet she feels like a fool. My heart breaks for her!”

Ok, Ok, I know now you are thinking this is OBVIOUS where this persons judgment is coming out, but I promise you many people do not realize they are doing because they are seasoning with this ‘care for her’. This is an actual snippet I have heard myself as a coach and it didn’t stop there, but the conversation was ‘seasoned’ with “because I care, that poor thing”

How could we say this?

“Did you hear about Jane and John Doe? I saw their divorce in the paper under the court house news. She never said anything about this and I have run into her at many community functions. That has to be a rough road, but they will get through it. I can’t imagine and should offer my support since their kids are the same age as mine. I bet I could offer some car pooling to her, if she wants.”

Do you see the difference? I hope so, as our outer voice will tell the truth every time. Our unconscious and conscious thoughts lead us to putting down others to feel better about “Me”…..This is a speeding train that is heading towards the end of the tracks if we do not become aware and make changes today. PLUS, your love of life and more will skyrocket when you take out this huge lurking ingredient in life! ….. I promise…Once this starts happening you care less and less what others are 'thinking'......Think of putting garlic in cake batter ……..Eeewww as it simply doesn’t belong there no matter HOW we try to justify it.

Our excuses are our blocks and here are a few justifications….

** I was just stating the facts

** Because I care about her

** She has said worse about others

** I was just repeating what everyone else is saying.

** She is a friend of mine

** Hey its public knowledge

** Poor thing!

**……tap into our own blocks and justifications.

Finally, reach for your innate compassion EACH and EVERY time! Try it and I promise you will learn something about yourself here.

Here is the challenge to test you & break unknown habits:

** Now you have light bulb awareness of this theory, so stay aware daily.

** Listen internally and think before you talk.

** Reach for compassion and support interaction into this type of conversation. It often diffuses others from going further.

** Never take someone else’s inventory, only your own. We teach by example, not preaching.

** If it is a money issue, find prosperity TV shows, magazine articles, online videos and more of people who have won the lottery or became rich. Challenge yourself to retrain your heart and mind to your own personal prosperity.

In the law of attraction, this MUST change for US to attract great things in life. The Judgment Trait will BLOCK it every time.

It’s never too late to look in the mirror and see this fault finding piece of the puzzle as a sign we need some inner work. It’s not wrong, just a symptom. Plus, look around you and see how contagious this is and see who we are hanging out with.

As always we are here for you at Pocket of Pearls.com and have a couple great workbooks to bring about this change in life easily and simply!

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The bottom-line is we do not have the right nor position to be judge and jury over the world. Only for self! Take care and please send in your questions!

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